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Wednesday, December 14, 2011

The wisdom of nikah.

Linguistically – It means 'the contract of marriage', and it also means 'having intercourse with the wife'. Abu 'Alee al-Qale said :

"The Arabs have differed with respect to the use of the word (contract) and (intercourse). So, if they say : So and so made nikah with a girl or the daughter of so and so, then what they intend is the contract of marriage. And if they say : He made nikaah with this woman or his wife, then what they intend is sexual intercourse."

Technically – A contract of agreement between a man and a woman, each intending by it to seek pleasure/enjoyment with the other and building a pious family leading to a stable community.

It needs to be mentioned here, that the intention behind nikaah is not simply to seek pleasure/enjoyment with one's partner, rather, it is also intended to build a pious family leading to a stable community. However, it may well be that one of the two of these intentions takes precedence over the other according to the specific circumstances of a person. 

Nikah in itself is legislated, and more so for the one who experiences desires and is capable (of getting married). It is also from the Sunnah of the Messengers, as Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'ala) says :

And indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad ), and made for them wives and offspring. And it was not for a Messenger to bring a sign except by Allah's Leave. (For) each and every matter there is a Decree (from Allah). [Surah ar-Ra'd : 38]

And the Prophet (sallahu 'alaihi wasallam) also married, and he said :

Indeed, I marry women. So, whoever goes against my Sunnah, then he is not from me.

Because of this, the scholars have said :

"Marriage for one who experiences desires is better than voluntary acts of worship, since it entails much good", as shall be explained a little later on, insha-Allah.

But at certain instances, nikaah may become obligatory, such as in the case of a man who has strong desires and fears for himself that he may fall into that which is prohibited if he does not get married. In this case therefore, it is obligatory upon him to get married so as to prevent himself from falling into that which is prohibited.

The Prophet (sallahu 'alaihi wasallam) said :
O young men! Whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and protecting one's chastity. Whoever cannot do that, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.

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